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The more you know….

February 8, 2016

Here’s a great idea….

In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Your Marriage Work, John Gottman says,“From knowledge springs not only love but the fortitude to weather marital storms. Couples who have detailed love maps of each other’s world are far better prepared to cope with stressful events and everyday conflict.” (pp. 48-49)

In other words…         

People do what they do for reasons that make sense them. The more we know about our partners, the better we’ll understand the reasons behind our partners’ actions. When we understand what is going on in our partners’ lives ,we can be more compassionate. The more we practice compassion in our relationships, the better we are able to deal with the storms stresses of life.

Here’s how this applies to your life…

Every day find something to add to your life map of your partner. Learn something about them you didn’t know before: a hope, a fear, their best and worst parts of their day.

To find out more…

check out The Marriage Garden program on the uaex website. Like us at or contact your local County Extension Agent. You can also read Seven Principles for Making Your Marriage Work.

Ashley Terry and Ashley Henderson

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