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Men and women’s needs

December 14, 2015
Here’s a life changing idea…
In their book, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Patricia Love and Steven Stosny say,

“It is important to avoid getting caught up in who is right or wrong. When a woman shames a man, she’s wrong even if she’s right. When a man stimulates a woman’s fear, he’s wrong even if he’s right” (p. 119).

In other words…         
A woman’s fear is typically heightened when she feels disconnected, and a man’s fear is typically heightened when he feels shamed or disrespected. Unfortunately, couples often unknowingly use the other’s as ammunition in heated disagreements, so men withhold communication and affection while women withdraw respect. These techniques do not help resolve, but rather intensify conflict. Realizing and meeting the emotional needs of men and women can open lines of communication and understanding which can improve conflict resolution.
Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
Make discussions more productive and less offensive by acknowledging  gender-specific needs of your spouse. Tell your husband how much you respect the amount of work he does to provide for your family, both inside and outside the home. Make sure your wife knows how much you love and what she means to you.
To find out more…
Visit our website to find out more information from The Marriage Garden. Like us at or contact your local county Extension agent. You can also read How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It.

Ashley Terry and Ashley Henderson

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