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What exactly is romantic love?

June 15, 2015

Here’s a great idea…

In his book, Authentic Happiness, Martin Seligman says that romantic love is “the idealization of another, idealizing their strengths and virtues and downplaying their shortcomings.”

In other words…

Sometimes we stop feeling romantic towards our partner simply because we stop focusing on the good things about them. Instead, we start dwelling on their faults, what we don’t like about them.

How this applies to you…

This week look for the strengths in your partner. Stop and think about the reasons you first fell in love with them. Try to find at least three good things about your partner this week. Focus on these things instead of the things that make you upset. You may find the romance being rekindled in your marriage.

To find out more…

about couple relationships, check out our FREE resources: The Marriage Garden or the Getting Our Hearts Right programs at uaex.edu/marriage, like us on facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You may also like to read the book Authentic Happiness.

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