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Being an emotional healer with children

June 5, 2015

Here’s a great idea…

In his book, Between Parent and Child, Haim Ginott says, “When children feel understood, their loneliness and hurt diminish. When children are understood, their love for their parents is deepened. A parent’s sympathy serves as an emotional first aid for bruised feelings.” 

In other words…

Just like a physical cut that is ignored can get infected, children can suffer emotional injuries that get  infected with resentment and loneliness. When we stop and take time to apply first aid to the wound, it often heals quicker and hurts less. When children are having strong feelings, such as loneliness, hurt, or fear, they have a hard time listening and solving problems. When a parent stops to acknowledge what the child is feeling and helps the child feel like these feelings are normal and acceptable, it helps the child deal with the emotions and solves problems.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

When children feel like they are not being understood or that you don’t care about their feelings, they will often hold onto those feelings more tightly; however, when they know that you understand how they feel, they can better handle their emotions. When your child is upset, try showing that you understand. Maybe you would use statements like: “You’re really disappointed. You’re mad about that. I can see that you are sad.”

To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at uaex.edu/families, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You may also enjoy reading Between Parent and Child.

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