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Manners Matter

May 18, 2015

A great idea…

In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman says, “One of the first things to go in a marriage is politeness. In some ways this simply reflects increasing comfort. But it leads to taking one another for granted, and it can lead to rudeness” (p. 65).

In other words…

Graciousness and courtesy help sustain our love. Familiarity can dull our manners. While healthy relationships don’t require us to be artificial, politeness and consideration can smooth many of life’s rough edges.

How can you apply this…

What are some ways in which you have let politeness with your partner fade? What acts of courtesy and politeness would you like to re-install in your relationship? You could offer thanks for taking out the trash or leave a note of appreciation for doing the laundry. Find a way to show politeness.

To Find Out More…

about couple relationships, check out our FREE resources: The Marriage Garden or the Getting Our Hearts Right programs at uaex.edu/marriage, like us on facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You may also like to read the book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail.

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