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Don’t poke at sores

January 27, 2014

Here’s a great idea…
In her book Why Talking Is Not Enough, Susan Page says. . . .
“If you have a sore on your arm, the last thing you should do is poke at it, dig around in there, and examine it more thoroughly. You’ll make it worse! Instead, you should create a gentle, healing environment for the wound and allow it to heal itself. [Healing is done by Nature!]” p. 56

In other words…
Emotional wounds should be treated the same as physical wounds. Constantly revisiting your relationship problems (i.e., analyzing them, nagging, pleading, etc.) will only cause them to fester until strong feelings of dissatisfaction occur. On the other hand, nurturing your relationship will help heal any wounds between you.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
Many relationship problems aren’t truly “problems” at all. They are simply differences in personality or values. Realize that everyone is different and choose to enjoy your partner’s good traits. This will strengthen your relationship.

To find out more…
about couple relationships, check out The Marriage Garden or the Getting Our Hearts Right program at arfamilies.org, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You may also like to read Why Talking Is Not Enough.

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