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Being emotionally close with your child

January 14, 2014

Here’s a life-changing idea…
In his book, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, John Gottman says,
“When you and your children are emotionally close, …you’re not afraid to set limits. You’re not afraid to tell them when they’ve disappointed you, when you know they can do better. And because you have an emotional bond with your children, your words matter. They care about what you think and they don’t want to displease you.” (pg. 27)

In other words…
Parenting is easier when we are emotionally close to our children. It is easier because children are likely to respond more quickly and in more positive ways when correction is called for. When we are emotionally close, children respond better because they respect us and they know we have their best interests in mind.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
Work on building an emotional bond with your children. Spend time with them. Talk with them. Participate in activities with them that they enjoy. This emotional closeness will give you the freedom to compassionately influence, guide, and even correct their behavior.

To find out more…
about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey, See the World Through My Eyes, or Getting Our Hearts Right programs at, follow us at or contact your local county Extension agent. You might also enjoy reading Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman.

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