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Happiness is not a competition

September 18, 2013

Here’s a great idea….

In his book, Authentic Happiness, Martin Seligman says,
“Happiness is not a competition. Authentic happiness [comes] from raising the bar for yourself, not rating yourself against others (p. 14).

In other words…
Though it may seem that other people are happier than we are, we should not compare or measure our happiness against theirs. In fact, one way to magnify our own happiness is to learn to take delight in the happiness of others. Rather than wonder if another person is happier or better than we are, we can enjoy their smile, their laughter, their good fortune.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life….

Think of someone who is authentically happy. Use that person as a role model, not as a yard stick. Heighten your happiness not only by looking for the good in your life but also by enjoying the happiness of those around you.

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