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Seeing the whole picture

September 16, 2013

Here’s a great idea…  

In their book, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Patricia Love, and Steven Stosny say,

“Until you can find out your partner’s perspective, yours is temporarily incomplete, which means you do not have enough data to come to a conclusion. Never trust half the picture!” (p.139).

In other words…

Often we assume we know what our partners are thinking and why they do the things they do. Frequently we are wrong. When we only have our side of the story, we don’t see the whole picture. Only when we humbly and earnestly study our partner’s half of the picture can we see enough of the picture to make good decisions.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

Next time issues arise between you and your partner, focus on what your partner is saying. Try to discern the feelings behind the words. Ask clarifying questions until you understand. When you fully appreciate your partner’s point of view, you are ready to work together.

To find out more…

about couple relationships, check out The Marriage Garden or the Getting Our Hearts Right program at, follow us at or contact your local county Extension agent. You may also like to read How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It.

One Comment
  1. September 23, 2013 8:21 pm

    It’s really a great and helpful piece of info. I’m glad that you shared this helpful information with us. Please keep us informed like this. Thanks for sharing.

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