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Understanding teenage rebellion

July 5, 2013

Here’s a life-changing idea…
In his book, Between Parent and Teenager, Haim Ginott says,
“Adolescence can be a time of turmoil and turbulence, of stress and storm. Rebellion against authority and against convention is to be expected and tolerated for the sake of learning and growth.” p. 24

In other words…
As parents we often feel bewildered and exasperated by our teenagers and their behavior. We tend to forget that challenging authority is a normal part of development. Adolescents are trying out their own ideas, preferences, and decisions. They are trying to figure out who they are as individuals, separate from their parents. Rather than react with anger, we can engage them in dialogue: “You feel strongly about that.” “That’s important to you.” “You wish things were different.”

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
The next time your teen does or says something that frustrates you, be glad for the teen’s developing independence. Enjoy the faltering steps towards adulthood. Set an example by engaging him or her in respectful and thoughtful conversation.

To find out more…
about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or Getting Our Hearts Right programs at arfamilies.org, like us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You might also enjoy reading Between Parent and Child.

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    • July 26, 2013 9:15 pm

      Thanks for the input! We’ll definitely take it into consideration. Some weeks we are better at coming up with catchier titles than others. The pictures are definitely something we will be trying to integrate at some point.

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