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Fighting on the same side

July 1, 2013

Here’s a great idea…
“Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.”
–Zig Ziglar

In other words…
We will have disagreements with our partners. We may be tempted to see them as our enemies. When this happens we must make a choice. We can rally all our resources to prove we are right and defeat our “enemy.” Or we can work together to understand each other and solve a shared problem. When we work as a team instead of against each other, we strengthen our relationships.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
The next time a disagreement arises between you and your partner, stop and consider how you are looking at the situation. Are you seeing your partner as the problem? If so, choose to see the problem as the problem instead. Find some common ground that will help you and your partner work together.

To Find Out More…
check out The Marriage Garden or Getting Our Hearts Right programs at, like us at or contact your local county Extension agent. You might also enjoy reading Susan Page’s Why Talking is Not Enough.

One Comment
  1. July 3, 2013 3:40 pm

    Intimacy is an important part of any successful marriage. While many people think intimacy pertains only to sex, it is much more than that. Being intimate with your partner means that you reveal your thoughts and your feelings (even though it may be embarrassing to do so), demonstrate affection, and work together to solve problems. By being open and honest we develop emotional intimacy . When we are stressed this is especially important. Intimacy gives your partner a chance to support you and in return, you are more likely to support them when they are stressed.

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