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Small stuff opens the way to big stuff

April 26, 2013

Here’s a life-changing idea…                                                                                                                         

Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.” –Catherine M. Wallace

In other words…

As parents we often get upset when our teenagers don’t talk to us. This may happen because we did not show them when they were younger that we really care about what they have to say.

Maybe we were distracted. Maybe we thought their talk was trivial. But it sends a message: “You and your interests don’t matter to me.”

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…                                                         

Next time your child has something to say to you, set aside all distractions and give your undivided attention. Ask follow-up questions. Show that what matters to them matters to you.

To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at arfamilies.org, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You might also enjoy reading Between Parent and Child by Haim Ginott.

One Comment
  1. Angie Freel permalink
    May 2, 2013 3:59 pm

    We just recently started having a family chat session every night we can right before bedtime. From the very first night I can’t tell you how much it has changed the dynamic of our conversations as well as teaching our children how to have a conversation. Our children look forward to it. Everyone has a voice.

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