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Involved fathers make happy children

February 15, 2013

Here’s a life-changing idea…                                                                                                                          

In their book, Why Fathers Count, Sean Brotherson and Joseph White say,

“For men. . .there is a clear and distinct link between the quality of their relationship with women and their involvement with children. . .Low marital satisfaction, emotional distance between partners, and high conflict in relationships undermine fathers’ involvement with their children” (p. 45-46).                                

In other words…

Fathers are better fathers when they have healthy relationships with the women in their lives—especially their wives. Even though they parent imperfectly, when fathers are positively involved in their children’s lives, children exhibit fewer behavior problems and anxieties; they also show higher cognitive development, greater academic achievement, and a greater ability to get along with others. It really pays off for fathers to be examples of love toward the children’s mothers.

 Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…                                                          

For mothers: Be patient as he improves his daddy skills. Commend your children’s father for what he does well. Encourage his involvement. You might say: “Our children are lucky to have you as their father.”

For fathers: Find ways to take extra responsibility so that your children’s mother can take breaks and rejuvenate.  Show that you love and respect her in addition to supporting her parenting efforts.

As you show love and respect for each other’s involvement and contributions, you prepare them to be good people and parents.

 To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at, follow us at or contact your local county Extension agent. You might also enjoy reading Why Fathers Count.

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