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If you do that one more time. . .!

December 5, 2012

Tired of your child misbehaving over and over? How can you make them stop?

Here’s a great idea…

In his book, Between Parent and Child, Haim Ginott says,

“To children, threats are invitations to repeat a forbidden act. When a child is told, ‘If you do it once more,’ he does not hear the words ‘if you.’ He hears only ‘do it once more.'” (p. 58). 

In other words…

Threats are ineffective as a means of correcting children. They are often misunderstood and children will likely do the exact thing you have told them not to do.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

This week try something new. Instead of telling the child what not to do, make a simple statement; offer an acceptable alternative.

For example, you might say, “That is not safe. Would you like to play with your truck instead?”

As you effectively redirect your child, you will have fewer fights and less stress. How does that sound?

To find out more…

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