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The limits of honesty

October 3, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

H. Wallace Goddard says,
“Anytime we’re tempted to say, ‘I need to be honest with you,’ we would be wise to set aside the so-called honesty and work on our compassion.”

In other words…

We often use the excuse of honesty to unload on people. Honesty without compassion is cruelty. It may make us feel noble and smart but it damages cherished relationships. It hurts the people we care about.  In fact, we should never undertake correcting another person unless we are currently and actively feeling loving and appreciative toward that person.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

The next time you feel the need to be “honest” with someone, pause. Set the conversation aside until you are feeling more peaceful, appreciative, and compassionate. Then, rather than use your anger to damage the relationship, you will be able to use your compassion to build the relationship.

To Find Out More…

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