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Reading your child’s banner

September 25, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

In the article, Compassionate Parenting, H. Wallace Goddard says, “Every child wears a banner.  On those banners children tell us how much time, attention, control, and love they need.  We should study those banners.  Unfortunately, they are not written in English.  They are written in behavior.”

In other words…

When we see misbehavior in our children, we may recognize it as their attempt to send us an important message. They may be terribly bored or feel painfully lonely. Very often the child is saying: “I want somebody to love me and spend time with me.” We can get mad at them—or we can respond to their plea.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

When we see misbehavior in our children, we may recognize it as their attempt to send us an important message. They may be terribly bored or feel painfully lonely. Very often the child is saying: “I want somebody to love me and spend time with me.” We can get mad at them—or we can respond to their plea.

To find out more…

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2 Comments
  1. September 25, 2012 11:45 pm

    It would be nice to be able to read what our children need, but sometimes I think even they don’t know…

  2. September 27, 2012 2:41 pm

    It’s true that children don’t always know what they need, or even what they are feeling. They often lack the vocabulary to communicate their wants and desires to us. As parents we can help them by noticing and naming those feelings so they will have the words to put with their emotions.

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