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Do you speak compassion with an accent?

September 11, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

Haim Ginott, the brilliant parenting expert, taught parents the language of compassion. When the parents complained about the difficulty of learning this new way of talking with their children, he is reported to have said, “You may always speak this new language of compassion with an accent.  For your children, it can be their native tongue.”

In other words…

There is hope! Even though we may have grown up in homes that lacked compassion and empathy, we as adults, can still develop these traits and teach them to our children.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

The next time problems or misbehavior arise, and you find yourself responding with anger or accusing words, STOP!  Take a moment to recognize that there is a better way.  You can approach your child with compassion and mend his bruised feelings through listening and understanding.  Once his feelings are healed, and he feels the strength of your love, your child will often have the courage to face his problems.  As you do this, your child will not only learn a better way to resolve conflict, but he will also learn both confidence and compassion.

To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at www.arfamilies.org, like us at www.facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You can also read Ginott’s Between Parent and Child.

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