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Feelings fuel behavior

March 2, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

In his book, Between Parent and Child, Hiam Ginott says, “Unfortunately, when parents are confronted with children’s misbehavior, they are unaware that usually disturbing feelings fuel that behavior. Feelings must be dealt with before behavior can be improved.” (p. 15)

In other words…
When our children misbehave, there is usually a feeling that is causing it. They may be angry, scared, hungry, tired, or bored. If we address the feelings first, the behavior will often improve on its own.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
The next time your child misbehaves, try to find the feelings that are causing the actions. After the child is feeling peaceful you can deal with the behavior if it is still a problem.

To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at arfamilies.org, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You can also read Between Parent and Child.

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