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Did you hear me?

February 10, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

In their book, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish say, “Often what makes us repeat ourselves is a child who acts as if he hasn’t heard us. When you are tempted to remind the child about something for the second or third time, stop yourself. Instead, find out from him if you’ve been heard.” (p. 78)

In other words…
It is easy to get frustrated when we feel like our children are ignoring us. Children can be paying attention even when they seem not to be. Asking our child to repeat back to us what they have heard is a good way to make sure they have not only been listening, but have also understood what we have said.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…
The next time you’re feeling frustrated because your child hasn’t acknowledged when you’ve said something, rather than fuss at them, ask them if they heard you and then ask them to repeat what you said. This can help prevent miscommunication and frustration.

To find out more…

about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at arfamilies.org, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You can also read How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk.

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