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Becoming the right person

February 10, 2012

Here’s a great idea…

Professional counselor, Lolly Pisoni, once said in an interview, “Having a healthy marriage is more than finding the right person, it’s becoming the right person.”

In other words…

One of the best things we can do to make our relationships happier and healthier is to become happy and healthy individuals. When we are vibrant and flourishing, we bring more to our relationships. We can increase the amount of positive emotions we feel by finding aspects of our past, present, and future to appreciate and savor.

Here’s how you can use this idea to have a better life…

Remember the good things that have happened in your past and choose to rewrite your negative memories with a positive theme by thinking of the good that came out of them. Stop to savor and appreciate the small things in life such as your partner’s smile, a blooming flower, or the taste of your favorite dessert. Anticipate the possibilities of good things yet to come.

To find out more…

about couple relationships, check out The Marriage Garden program at, follow us at or contact your local county Extension agent.


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