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Lies your memory tells you

September 28, 2011

A Great Idea …

“Most people think memory is like a camera that captures images and stores them for future retrieval. Memories routinely fade, vanish, or transform—sometimes dramatically. The mind can even fabricate memories.” (Daniel Gardner in his book, The Science of Fear, pp. 52-53)

In Other Words …

We often think of our memories as factual representations of events. In reality, our brains store a few key images and then fill in the gaps. We unconsciously make our memories more gloomy or more cheerful than the reality—depending on our bias. Yet we can choose to revisit and rewrite negative memories using forgiveness and compassion. We can let go of hurt and anger; we can transform our negative memories into positive ones.

How This Applies to You …

What memories are you ready to transform? Revisit them replacing resentment with understanding. Offer compassion to those who offended you. This may not happen easily or quickly but, over time, you can set yourself free of grudges and resentment.

To Find Out More …

For more great ideas (or to share your own ideas), check out the Navigating Life’s Journey blog

For excellent (and free!) programs on improving your personal well being, check out The Personal Journey and Managing Stress at www.arfamilies.org.

For more information, we recommend Authentic Happiness by Martin E. P. Seligman.

43 Memory Lies – PWB

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