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Building your marriage with service

March 18, 2011
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What the Experts Say…

“We live in a world where individual’s wants and needs take center stage. All of us are concerned about ‘me’ and ‘my rights’ or ‘what makes me happy.’ We must look out for ourselves. But if this tendency is not balanced with a desire to connect with others and serve them, than we become isolated and lonely. Happy lives and good marriages involve service and sacrifice.”  (H. Wallace Goddard and James P. Marshall, family life specialists in their book, The Marriage Garden, p. 146)

In Other Words…

Service is a vital part of a healthy relationship. Acts of serving our partners as well as serving others in our communities are important. In fact, when couples serve together, they get double benefits—both the blessings of companionship and the joy of service.

How This Applies to You…

Find ways to serve. Perhaps you can rub your partner’s shoulders or offer to take a chore that is normally theirs. Find ways to serve in your community together. Maybe you could help a child read, pick up trash at the park, or serve in a soup kitchen. Finding more ways to serve will bring more satisfactions to your relationship. Right now think of a way to serve your partner or serve with your partner.

To Find Out More…

For an excellent (and free!) program on marriage, see The Marriage Garden at Arkansas Families.

For excellent books focused on marriage, read The Marriage Garden by H. Wallace Goddard and James P. Marshall or Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.

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