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March 8, 2011

What the Experts Say…

When children are hurried, they take their time. Most often they resist adults’ ‘Hurry up!’ by engaging in a slow-down….Rarely should children be told to rush. Instead, they should be given realistic time limits, and left with the challenge to be ready on time.” (Haim Ginott, Child Psychologist, in his book, Between Parent and Child, pp. 136-137.)

In Other Words…

In today’s fast-paced world, we often try to get our children to make up for our lack of planning by hurrying them. When we try to rush children, however, it often has the opposite effect. This isn’t because they are contrary. It’s just that kids, even more than adults, feel flustered by pressure. Planning ahead can do wonders for making transitions not only painless but positive.

How This Applies to You…

When your children are given realistic time frames and gently supported in their progress, they will often complete necessary tasks without stress and frustration.

If your child has a hard time getting up in the morning, try setting the alarm clock 15 minutes earlier to allow more time for them to wake up slowly. Maybe you can even sit on the bed and talk to your child as he or she rouses.

Inform them in advance of upcoming events. “We need to leave for school in 30 minutes. What do you need to do before we go?”

To Find Out More…

For an excellent (and free) program on parenting, see The Parenting Journey at and if your children are younger than six, check out See the World Through My Eyes.

For more in-depth reading, we recommend Between Parent and Child by Dr. Haim Ginott or Soft-Spoken Parenting by H. Wallace Goddard.

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